Tuesday, April 11, 2017

#AtoZChallenge - I is for introvert

I am an introvert. I have only recently learned how much of an introvert I am and how I need to embrace it.

I have always valued my alone time, and I was always drained in groups (a couple of birthday parties where I just collapsed and went to bed early come to mind here), but I never knew what it meant. I never knew why I was like that.

I thought that it was just being shy, and that suffering from years of bullying made me withdrawn from the world. I thought that I was lazy and anti-social.

Many years later I learned what it means to be an introvert, I felt all puzzle pieces of my life fall into place.

I have my coping strategies now. I plan in alone time before and after events. I calculate in that I may be out of sorts and tired afterward and need at least one day of recoup time in my bed under my pile of blankets.

That's ok. That is the self-care I needed all my life, and I am so happy I can give it to myself.


  1. Although I am an extrovert, I also need some me time alone and I enjoy those moments equally. Noisy pubs just drain my energy.
    Thanks for dropping by my post.

    Suzy at Someday Somewhere - Inaction

    1. Oh yes, pubs have that ability. I like that even extraverts need alone time! Thanks for your re-visit!

  2. This is a great post! Learning self love and understanding your own needs are the most important things! Good on you for being happy with being you! Me time is always an awesome thing!


    1. Thank you for your kind words and your visit! Hope you enjoy your own me-time!

  3. Only if you understand you, you can go ahead. So that's great.

    Eva - Mail Adventures

    1. that is a wonderful saying :) Thanks for that inspiration!

  4. I worked hard when I left school to change from being an introvert to something more socially acceptable. I was fortunate to go to Teacher's College with a group of people who accepted me and to meet my husband, an extrovert, who is also an introvert. I'm happy with where I am now but still feel overwhelmed in large groups. One on one I can talk happily but to a large group what I say seems to be insignificant despite my Master's degree. At the age of 66 I can accept what I am and not be quite so hard on myself. I now enjoy social situations but love to have time to myself more than anything.

    1. Oh how wonderful to read your response. It so resonates! Sounds like you embrace yourself fully.
      Thanks for stopping by my blog!

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  6. I read another post on I for Introvert today. I'm also one. :D
    I guess we need a lot of alone time, don't we. Books, music and solitude are our perfect companions.
    Glad to connect with you via this AtoZ.
    Happy AtoZing!
    Chicky @ www.mysteriouskaddu.com

  7. Hi Sylvia - I like being on my own ... but can come into my own when in company - though I like the ability to leave when I want! Take care and just be you ... cheers Hilary


  8. I'm an introvert too.

    I don't hate people (no misanthrope). I only need to recharge my battery more often when I'm around a large group of people. :) I like my alone time. But like most people I don't want to be lonely. It's nice knowing that family and friends are close enough when my battery's all ready to go!

  9. Introvert self care gets complicated when you're married to an extrovert. I often get my alone time by sending the hubs out to do something with his guy friends. We both get recharged that way.

  10. I am by Nature an introvert too. As a child I was excruciatingly shy but I made an effort to step out of my comfort zone and took on challenges that only an extrovert would relish. It did cause a bit of stress in my life but I learned that I could exist in an extrovert's world as well. Having said, I still need time alone and I'm not afraid of being alone either, which I consider to be a great advantage in life. So, you see, you are not alone! So glad I'm going back and reading some of your posts :)

  11. It's really a great idea to better understand your personality type. I had mine done with various methods in my 20s as the places I worked at felt if you understood this and that people have different personalities then you get on better at work. I'm more of an introvert as I got older but was an extrovert in my earlier years.

  12. Hi Sylvia.
    I like your idea of self-care. If more of us did that, we'd have a more lovable world.
    J is for JOYN



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